Well, I have promised for a while that new information about me would appear here. It didn’t appear magically, I have had to make an effort. For me, like many in our new CoVid world, I have struggled and suffered a little. I don’t have a problem self isolating, my issue has more been socializing. However, now going out to do some simple shopping gets me vibrating… anxiety or excitement?
This is what I am exploring now. Is my body’s physical response because I’m happy, overjoyed to be out or is it because I am pursued by a fear of the unknown or both. I talk to self about the tools I have but still it is a journey. Yes, meditation. Yes, yoga. Yes, my new canine companion Ginger Lee. Yes, walking. Yes, biking. Yes, breath work. All these are tools in my tool kit of emotional and mental health.
This bit about me may read familiar to you as well. Becoming aware of these challenges and strengths is the first step on a road to not just coping but enjoying the journey.
Ginger Lee — Up Dog
I am, truly I am. I would love to share my skills with you. Please know we don’t have to meet in person to reap the benefits of hypnotherapy. Contact me, let’s talk.
How do we respond when we’ve missed the mark? When saying or doing something has impacted another in a way that was not intended. We may have acted out of anger or maybe just offered unwanted advice or misunderstood a situation.
How do we make amends? I believe it starts with willingness. Being prepared to listen wholeheartedly and speak from the heart we cultivate what it truly means to be humane.
By mistake, by intention, we humans have a choice even when we’ve made an error. I was brought up with the concept that if you borrow something from someone, you either return it in the same condition you received it in or you return it in better shape. This same is true if through our words we’ve hurt feelings, dismissed an opinion or just not listened.
A starting place is by turning inward and checking out how would I feel if it had been me on the receiving end.
It’s interesting how “he said she said” can spin us into a vortex of negativity. Sometimes so damaging that once beloved syblings become estranged, partnerships tumultuously end or friendships dissolve. Don’t get me wrong, all things have their course, the great Way.
Everything coming and everything going; always changing, all ways. This understanding is the flavour of life lived to its fullest. Sometimes savoury; sometimes sweet.
When something goes awry in how we relate to another and especially ourselves how can we turn the wheel on this pivot point? It could mean anything, for some, taking a deep breath, perhaps walking away and regrouping thoughts, maybe inviting someone who can be a mediator, for groups maybe engaging in the wonderful process, “The Way of Counsel”. It could be veering away from the critical or defensive and just saying a simple affirmation of possibility. “How can we make this win/win?” “I trust you to do what’s right.” These are only suggestions. It’s not a pat phrase or words that can be preplanned. It revolves around listening and speaking from the heart. Asking self, “What is appropriate for this moment?” And perhaps how can I be the pivot point of positivity? And a pointer to possibility?
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I am a single 60ish woman.
Mother of three adult children
Nana of one 12 going on 16 grandchild.
Dog Ma to the amazing no-eye Yorkie Sparky.
I wear many hats.
*Therapeutic Yoga Teacher
*Practicing Zen Buddhist
°Audio book addict
… and so it goes. This doesn’t tell you who I am, it just tells you what I do.
My Nana, My Lifeline
Through the emotional years, particularly after Mom’s death by suicide, when I seemed to live from a place of never-ending heartbreak, my Nana said to me one time, “Don’t ever lose your kind heart.” Her wisdom has always pointed me to the understanding that deep sorrow, joyful gratitude and all emotions in between come from the same place.
Image by Fraser Evans