Summer time blues? The weather is greyish, rainy. The upside is that after a dryish spring where we live is thirsty. Very parched. The downside is that summer activities may be curtailed or cancelled. What we were expecting to happen didn’t.
Much like situations that arise in life, we don’t have the ability to control weather. However, equipped with the right tools and knowing how to use them, rain clothes or an umbrella, we can choose what we wish to do. Go out prepared or stay indoors and find some other activity.
In life we always have a choice on how we respond. However, triggers, fears or phobias can make us feel helpless. As if there is no choice. Is this really true? Yes, when we don’t know why we have those triggers, where the fears originated or what we can do about that phobia, it feeds helplessness and fuels hopelessness.
Here is some good news, very good news. We come into this world with only two fears, these fears are important for our own physical survival. The fear of falling and the fear of loud noises. We wouldn’t be here if we didn’t react, without thinking, as if they were a matter of life and death because in our distant past, and even now, they are just that.
All other fears and phobias arise from circumstances and reactions, sometimes from our caregivers, sometimes from others in positions of authority, sometimes from those who are just bigger and older then us. These fears and phobias become part of our operating system in the subconscious mind. The sub conscious mind then takes on the task to protect us, sometimes with irrational behaviour; they become an integral part of our survival system.
How is this good news? Working with a hypnotherapist who uses the tool of hypnosis we can access the subconscious mind and deprogram those protective responses that have outlived their usefulness. In fact, now they may have become the problem themselves.
Seems we cannot actually find who the insanity quote can be attributed to. “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results.”
I find this ironic. The same old same old that our sub conscious mind created to protect us is now the thing that can make us feel insane, out of control. Yes, it does feel “insane” when the same small things feed instant anger or for example we “know” that a kitten won’t harm us but when we see one we are paralyzed with fear each and every time.
But for our purposes it rings true when we relate it to the trigger of the subconscious mind to a created fear or phobia. The subconscious mind responds in an insane way to what others would see as a sane situation. Undeniably fears and phobias are debilitating. Yet we cannot think ourselves out of them. It is not the thinking mind that needs to be updated, it is the subconscious mind.
This cycle of “insanity” needs to be examined, determined if it is still useful and then as in an outdated operating system be updated in the “subconscious mind” to what the conscious mind finds useful in navigating and living a quality life.