This morning sitting here in front of my computer navigating and creating this new website after three hours of mild frustration (only three, only mild), I remembered that I have tools to deescalate rising anxiety, ameliorate it or actually stop it before it becomes overwhelming.
Best advice I received from my stand-out Webmaster:
Step away from the computer.
Then from the archives of my own operating system. I remembered one thing:
I have for long years recognized that life is a process not a project. I believe there never is a stage in life when it can be honestly said, “I’m here, I made it. I’m done.”
Through Zen Buddhism, yoga and hypnotherapy, I have been supported in an on-going “investigation of the fundamental nature of self”, a fancy term for explaining who I am, what makes me tick and how I respond to what happens to me.
Many of us struggle with shame, I am no different. Brené Brown refers to the skill of navigating this uncomfortable territory as “shame resilience”. I like to expand this to “emotional resilience”. To nurture our resilience, we are called to dive deep into the subconscious to recognize the roots, time of origin and what has pushed us off track from feeling comfortable and connected with who we really are.
If, in our past, we have experienced trauma, by this I mean anything at all that makes you second guess your own innate nature of goodness. Neither addressed nor resolved, we may live our issues through the perspective of a hyper vigilant survival mode. Definitely, not a comfortable way to savour the joys of living and to support navigating the inevitable challenges of being human.
Hypnotherapy offers a way to pilot through and eliminate the residual emotional baggage. We unpack the wrinkly, smelly, old fashioned, not useful ways we have lived and which now weigh us down. Hypnotherapy addresses anxiety, phobias, fears and all manner of acquired behaviours that the sub conscious mind initially created to protect but now is a hinderance in our journey of moving both forward and deeper to our “fundamental nature” of love, kindness and compassion to self and others.
For me, the path of becoming a certified Hypnotherapist, has itself provided me with the tools for my own self exploration, self enhancement and self navigation. I feel less anxious, if anxiety arises I am able to recognize it and breathe through it, go for a walk, soothe myself with seeing the universe as a place where things happen for me rather then just to me. I am empowered to be proactive and just be kind to anxious me.
The lens through which we look at the world, our perspective, is sometimes what needs to be recognized first and then examined. Changing perspective is a practice, a returning over and over again to the moment and simply by recognizing an opportunity for self-investigation, the change is happening.
If we are not living our lives to become better beings, truer to our authentic nature then perhaps we are living hollow lives, motivated for a need to find “fullness” in the stuff of a consumer driven life. Or the need to be in denial, self medicate or by just ignoring that discomfort in the pit of the stomach. Trust those gut feelings they are a pointer to addressing what’s what. However, if we don’t know something, anything, it only means one thing, “I don’t know.” Not, “I’m bad.” Or I’m stupid.”
Eckhart Tolle said, “The moment you realize you’re not present, you are.” To extrapolate, when I recognize that I’m looking at the world as unkind, I have the opportunity to recognize instances of kindness. Through years of social conditioning, unfortunate events and circumstances, we lose the innate trust we had as children. We can return to this trust, empowered with the wisdom of years and an acceptance or at least an understanding of knowing we don’t know what’s going to happen next. Leaning in and being with we become confident our response will be appropriate to the situation. If it’s not, then that too is a practical pointer to further investigation.
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As I navigate through my own emotional challenges, I am beginning to realize how this process and journey of healing is so empowering.
It is responsible for choosing the career paths I am on, that of being a Yoga Teacher and becoming a Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist. It has also put me on the path of practicing Zen Buddhism. And, the gold in all this, is that having been “there” I am better equipped to help those who are struggling.
We are only born with two fears, the fear of falling and the fear of loud noises. All other fears and phobias originate from the challenges we have faced. This is great news, that means with hypnotherapy we learn to not just manage these debilitating difficulties eliminate them.
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I am a single 60ish woman.
Mother of three adult children
Nana of one 12 going on 16 grandchild.
Dog Ma to the amazing no-eye Yorkie Sparky.
I wear many hats.
*Therapeutic Yoga Teacher
*Practicing Zen Buddhist
°Audio book addict
… and so it goes. This doesn’t tell you who I am, it just tells you what I do.
My Nana, My Lifeline
Through the emotional years, particularly after Mom’s death by suicide, when I seemed to live from a place of never-ending heartbreak, my Nana said to me one time, “Don’t ever lose your kind heart.” Her wisdom has always pointed me to the understanding that deep sorrow, joyful gratitude and all emotions in between come from the same place.
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